POWERFUL REFLECTIONS ABOUT FAULT AND RESPONSIBILITY

We all have the power to choose what our life looks like.

This morning I watched a little movie of Will Smith on Facebook where he was sharing his thoughts about fault and responsibility. It seemed very familiar to me. All these useless discussions with friends, collegues and my family about whose fault it is. We usually get stuck on the difference between fault and responsibility.

It is so easy to blame somebody or something for something. But to be honest, does this idea help in any way? Do we really feel better? Maybe for a moment because we seem to be a better person than the other one who made the mistake. But the situation is still the same. If we keep on blaming and waiting for somebody else to fix our situation, we feel like victims, helpless and powerless. We don’t even realize that it was us who gave our power to someone else.

Will Smith pointed out,“It doesn’t matter who’s fault it is that something is broken if it’s your responsibility to fix it.“ We might not like this statement on the first view while we are still hurt and angry. But in these words is power, our power and all the possibilities for a change into good.

Let me explain! For example it’s not our fault how we grew up, if a mother left the family and left you behind or a father was an abusive alcoholic. But blaming will not change our past in any way. It is our responsibility to figure out how to deal with our traumas and try to make a life out of it.
It is not our fault if our partner cheated and ruined the marriage but it is our responsibility to figure out how to take the pain and how to overcome it and build a happy life for ourselves. There are endless little or big dramas in our daily life where someone else did something wrong and endless ways to become a victim or an overcomer. It is our choice.

Fault and responsibility don’t go together, it sucks! But they don’t.

When something is somebody elses fault, we want them to suffer, to be punished and pay for it. We want it to be their responsibility to fix it but that’s not how it works, especially when it’s our heart.

Our heart, our, life, our happiness is our responsibility, and our responsibility alone.

As long as we’re pointing our finger and are stuck in who’s fault something is, we are trapped in victim mode, where we’re stuck in suffering. The road to power is in taking responsibilty.

It is our choice, do we want to blame and continue endless suffering or do we take our power back to live a life in happiness, harmony and abundance.

It is our heart, our life, our happyiness is our responsibility, and our responsibility alone.

Let’s make the right choice, forgive and step into freedom.